core+cli: castle apply — one converge verb replaces deploy/start/enable/…

Reconcile the running system to declared config in a single operation,
replacing the old deploy && start plus the per-kind enable/disable/
install/uninstall verbs. The mechanism varies by manager (systemd unit /
PATH install / gateway route); the verb never does.

Core (castle_core.deploy.apply):
- render (units, Caddyfile, tunnel) then reconcile: activate every
  enabled deployment that's down, restart any whose unit bytes changed,
  deactivate the disabled ones. Returns ApplyResult (the enacted diff).
- --plan computes the diff and touches nothing.
- restart-on-change is exact: _render_unit_files is the single source of
  truth for unit bytes, used both to write units and to predict restarts,
  so the plan can't drift from what deploy writes.

Desired state:
- DeploymentBase.enabled (default True) — the declarative on/off. apply
  converges to it; a disabled deployment is defined but not running and
  gets no gateway route (else it would 502). Registry omits enabled when
  True, keeping existing registries byte-identical.

CLI:
- add `castle apply [name] [--plan]`; keep `restart` as the one
  imperative bounce, plus status/doctor/logs/gateway/program.
- retire deploy, start, stop (top-level); service/job deploy|enable|
  disable|start|stop; tool install|uninstall; program install|uninstall.
- next-step strings + doctor hints now say `castle apply`.

Verified: core 129 + cli 31 green; live `castle apply` on a converged
node reports "nothing to do" with no spurious restarts; --plan shows an
empty diff; gateway + api stay up.

cli/src/castle_cli/commands/create.py

@@ -158,12 +158,12 @@ def run_create(args: argparse.Namespace) -> int:
     if stack == "supabase":
         print("  # edit migrations/, functions/, public/ — targets the shared substrate")
         print(f"  castle program build {name}   # apply migrations to the substrate")
-        print(f"  castle deploy && castle gateway reload   # serve at /{name}/")
+        print(f"  castle apply   # serve at {name}.<gateway.domain>")
     elif stack:
         print("  uv sync")
         if kind == "service":
             print(f"  uv run {name}  # starts on port {port}")
-            print(f"  castle deploy {name}")
+            print(f"  castle apply {name}")
         print(f"  castle test {name}")
     else:
         print("  # add code, then declare commands: in castle.yaml")